I struggle with tempo. I dance like a white boy. Possibly like a middle school white boy. No rhythm at all. One thing I am great at is following, which doesn't help me in this case. A following seat is great in an established rhythm, sadly the only thing we have established is a steady increase in tempo. The problem is tempo is the basis of everything; dressage, jumping, you name it I can relate it back to tempo.
Now I have a horse that begs to go faster and I get sucked in. His nimble little legs get going and I start following instead of maintaining the proper rhythm. Since I suck at controlling my hips I end up getting tense all over trying to slow the tempo. Pretty soon I realize my shoulders and elbows are locked and I am not following with my hands. Shockingly, it makes the little Stinker super tense. When he gets tense his solution is to go faster, which puts in a vicious cycle.
Our last few rides have been ugly at the best. So, I am going back to ground zero to figure out this tempo thing. I think I am going to start riding with a metronome. Hopefully this will give me something to follow and we can break the cycle.